Six months ago I did something incredible, it changed my life, I went on a 30-day fast and for the first time felt free to think free of judgment, freed from this busy noisy information hungry world Six months ago I did my own social media event That's right I logged you in and I realized I only meant to fast for 30 days so I realized I had been so immersed in the social world that I felt like I was losing myself but suddenly 30 days turned into 60 days. What I Learned from My Social Media Accelerator Amber Quinney of TechSouth Buffalo
Six months in 60 days turned into six months of being social media free, and I felt like I was in my own world and I felt like I was recovering from something that severely impacted my creativity and my intelligence in ways I didn't like that I loved. That smile is right there and that's what I felt but I've learned something in these six months that social media is one of the biggest threats to the brain. It's a very scary thought but social media has programmed us.
Think less to focus on the question Now let me be clear I am not anti-social media as a social media consultant and marketer as a social media consultant and research student. Facebook Connect I have profited from simple social media knowledge to help business owners position their online brands to attract target audiences, I study the behavioral effects of social media as the thesis of my research.
I am not anti-social media, but I am aware of the dangers of social media consumption, I use the word consumption as an economic term to describe our use of social media because as we scroll, we feed our minds ideas, thoughts, and content, emotions. Our timelines drop and we do it more often and these ideas thoughts feelings content becomes a habit and it takes 21 days to make it a habit, so after 21 days this habit of constantly being on social media becomes a pattern.
Our character is deeply rooted in our life and I am a research student in my college I decided to change the topic of my research to focus on social media effects while experiencing social media fast. I was curious to know what the difference is. Social media users and I were interested in three variables academic performance income levels and self-confidence or self-image, so in other words, I wanted to know if there was a relationship between time spent.
Social Media and Grades On average, students who spend more or less time on social media don't get better grades, and people who spend more or less time on social media earn more or earn more income and self-confidence. People who spend more or less time on social media have better or worse self-esteem
Awareness of the effects of social media and how we can use social media tools to add value to our lives There are now seven and six billion people on this planet with a capital B, and about seven billion and three billion of those are social. Media users Facebook alone has 2.2 billion monthly active users and they are active users and that number does not include people like me who are always on vacation 500,000 literally half a million people are connected
Facebook adds about six new profiles every day, and every three seconds two to eighteen people join Facebook, and in those last 30 seconds, about 76 percent of Facebook's 2.2 billion people say they check it every day and are honest. How many of us here check Facebook or some form of social media at least once a day and our hands go way up? Now the problem with social media is that we are programmed to behave in ways that are dangerous to our psyche.
Well-being first social media has created this false perfect world and we have been programmed to organize our lives around this false sense of perfection, let me explain to anyone who comes across here, follow a few people on social media. So perfect like men, always on vacation, always that person always seems to be eating, every time they're going to get the best grades, someone has a nice family and some people like that follow now what I'm not saying
What I Learned from My Social Media Accelerator Amber Quinney of TechSouth Buffalo
I am not saying that the person's online posts or online activities are false or fake because I admit that I am one of those people who said your life is beautiful. So I'm not saying that I'm saying we shouldn't judge a person's online life we don't know their offline life we don't know their offline reality what happens is we start comparing ourselves to the people
Whoever rules the internet read a good book here recently, and understands that social media is more than just a virtual world full of narrative stories where people tell their lives and experiences, like reading a book and comparing your life to a character in a book. And the point is that we want to tell the world all the great and positive things about ourselves, that's fine, but what we can't or shouldn't do is judge ourselves and criticize ourselves.
We are designed to constantly play this game of constantly catching up with the next person competing with the next person against what we see as other people's lives, which is one psychological consequence of social media. Embrace where we are in our own solo journey and believe me if you are here today you are exactly where you should be second Social media has taught us to constantly seek social validation.
Validation is when you write a post and upload a picture and spend 20 minutes or so rewording the caption a million times. It's come down to responding to something people love or something people essentially share. Socially validating people is big on Instagram how many Instagram users are in our room you probably know Instagram well I call it Instagram so Instagram is a picture-sharing site.
And the insta draft is when you take some photos and compare them and then cut the best one. It doesn't matter who has done it before. No shame. You take about 30 different selfies and all of them are the same thing or this kind of selfie. Right from the front, you take about 30 different selfies that all look the same and your friends help you narrow down the best three or top five, then try different captions and different filters, and boom
The winning picture and the winning caption to bring it right hey makes your Instagram profile, where all the other perfect images and captions are and it's funny to think how long it takes these people to experience an identity crisis or think about it. A form of social pressure Social validation means that social media users are constantly posting for likes and attention and they feed their ego with this false belief that is real self-confidence.
The only form of validation and true self-confidence we need is something that grows internally, ultimately not through the internet, and perhaps worst of all social media is designed to make us think less, or as one researcher puts it, we start to outsource our potential. . Digest for a moment, if you think about it, we have outsourced our ability to think and it is innate how our ability to think critically becomes logical to create the images we see in our imaginations.
How We Are All Human How to Outsource and Who We Outsource Well Search Engine Business owners are familiar with the term outsource, which refers to obtaining a product or service from an external supplier, especially an internal source instead of an internal source—hip so other words. In other words, a person pays person B to do a job that person can do, but I don't know if it's cheaper than having person B do the job. Social media has taught us that with similar outsourcing
What I Learned from My Social Media Accelerator Amber Quinney of TechSouth Buffalo
In our brain we think that instant information is at our fingertips as everything can be found on Google, so instead of gaining knowledge through practical and life experience we hit our good friend Google, Google has all the answers if everything is on Google in less than a second. have. Then perhaps everything has already been learned and there is nothing else to learn, nothing to learn, do you see how that mindset is dangerous I call it mindlessness
Behavior The Internet has amplified this tendency to transfer knowledge from the inside out and has taught us new strategies to find the information we need to know through search engines, but the truth is that there is something new and exciting to learn every day and not everything. Often found on Google, we need to look within ourselves for the questions we seek answers to rather than outsourcing that intelligence to a search engine, so what?
All this shows that this social media is destroying our social capital as a society one by one but I believe we can reverse those habits on social media and believe it or not we can use social media for social good my friends we add value to our lives. social media can be used to do I will show you first how to use social media as a tool for self-branding. I will show you personal branding important personal branding matters how many people here know I have internships for interviews and
Countless career opportunities by being focused and passionate about my personal brand online and offline I tell people that the Amber you meet online is the Amber you meet offline. I say brand, I don't mean she's going to say nonsense or untruth, I mean we have to be very conscious of what our online profile says about how we present ourselves or behave online all the time.
Because we can open opportunities faster than they can close them, we each make it our business to behave online in a manner consistent with our values and our true character Social media is another great tool to help you expand your network. A networking guru and limiting contact with people outside of my immediate circle to share ideas and information is fun for me, but it's not.
Get confused with connecting with strangers online and you see I have to be very selective about who we choose to connect with and who we allow to connect with us because not everyone has our best interests at heart. Can be used as a tool. I use Facebook as an example of people we actually know
The other 10 are no strangers, and the prospect will be involved further at some point in the near future. Maybe we meet each other at a festival. Sometimes we plan to attend the same convention. We don't join Facebook aimlessly, we don't follow each other aimlessly
About a week ago I received this message on Facebook from a young woman in my age group about how to get positive results. It's equally important to present to you today, so I got this message on Facebook from a young woman we didn't know personally, but we were connected.
We had a number of mutual friends on social media for a while and she introduced herself and she said Amber I want to applaud you for everything you do on social media and invite you to be the first feature on my first edition. Talk about an online magazine, talk about a Wow opportunity, firstly shout out to her for using social media for social good because her online magazine is going to tell the stories of women and girls and inspire people all over the world but secondly let's see how
We can use our personal brands to attract opportunities to us and connect with like-minded people to everything we've heard here today. If you don't have a positive purpose for using social media, a content writer, or marketer, log in immediately disable, and log off. Shut up, I'm here to tell you it's not about the likes, it's not about the number of followers
Its pure engagement is real-life and real-time engagement and we need to use that approach in our personal lives and be clear and honest with ourselves about what our real intentions are. Definitely remember this speech and action today, so my intention is to draw attention or educate someone with my words to harass or harm someone.
If you've ever heard the saying that if you live by praise, you die by criticism, it's true. When you truly value who you are and what you have to offer, you won't find yourself looking for social validation online. So learn to like yourself. First, add every other active or offline and lastly, this is my favorite for every 30 minutes you spend consider disconnecting from social media and getting back to your real life.
Social media stimulates your brain like reading a chapter in a book. You can get a lot done in 30 minutes without a shadow, you can learn a new skill, you can have a deep offline conversation, and if anyone here needs to watch Black Panther recently, that movie alone has sparked such a great and necessary conversation for you.
You can read a book where you can learn a new recipe, spend time with a loved one who can teach you a class You can do a lot of things. Someone here who was speaking in the audience before I got up said they went on a trip to Africa because they were on social media. Every time I get off social media and back into my personal life I get more of my time back than ever before. was able to take and I know you can't be sued
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